A familiar way to date.
More control underneath.
Ourside is built for people living with HIV who want connection without having privacy treated as a trade-off. Discovery, photos, conversations and visibility all have a place you can control.
Everything important, without unnecessary noise.
The product stays simple at first glance, then gives you more control when you need it.
Set age and distance preferences, choose whether you appear in discovery and keep your phone number completely outside matching.
Private photos can have a server-generated blurred version for discovery instead of relying on a browser-only effect.
Chat after matching, keep block and unmatch close, and decide for yourself how quickly a connection moves forward.
You decide who gets a chance to meet you.
Your discovery settings are not buried in a separate experience. They shape the people you see and the people who can see you.
Age range
Choose the range that fits how you want to date, with optional stretch preferences.
Distance
Set a maximum distance and use approximate location rather than exposing an exact position.
Visibility
Turn discovery off, use incognito controls and decide which profile details are shown.
Phone-free discovery
Your phone number is not a search key, recommendation signal or public profile detail.
Your preferences can change with you.
A dating app should adapt to your boundaries.
Whether you want to be more private for a while or open your discovery wider, the settings are there to support your choice.
Give someone a reason to start a conversation.
Add a display name, photos, relationship goals and the details you are comfortable sharing. Keep the rest private.
Profile details
Use a display name instead of publishing a legal name. Add city, work, education and a short bio according to your visibility settings.
Relationship goals
Tell people whether you are looking for a relationship, friendship, marriage or casual dating — and control whether that intention is visible.
Protected photos
Private images can remain blurred until the appropriate reveal condition. The original stays separate from the discovery preview.
Personal settings
Change discovery, location, distance, work, education, intent, photo requests and private-photo settings from one place.
The conversation is yours.
Once two people connect, Ourside keeps the next step simple. Message privately, take your time, block or unmatch if the connection is not right.
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Create your profile and decide what you want your Ourside experience to look like.
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